Chukwudi Iwuchukwu
“Chukwudi! ” Hope you know I did not court my wife?
Billionaire Industrialist and Seahorse Industries (makers of Seahorse lubricants) founder Dr Ebuka Onunkwo asked the last time I was at his office.
Yes! I remember sir.
“I met my wife on December 28 1998, less than three weeks, we were married without courtship” he continued:
“The first day I saw her, my spirit told me she’s my wife. Eventually, we fixed a date for the marriage and we did the necessary things and they handed her over to me and said, ‘take her, go stay for four days, but don’t touch her.’ I said ‘okay.’ We slept for four days and I didn’t touch her. After that, she went back home and told them that she’s okay, that she would follow her heart.”
The couple eventually got married on January 16, 1999, and by January 18, they left for Cotonou where the billionaire industrialist started his life.
They practically built the wealth that the couple has today together.
Talking to another person with us in his office, he then said:
“My wife is in charge of my company in Cotonou. I only visit Cotonou maybe once in two weeks; I’m permanent in the factory in Ozubulu. She’s in charge of Cotonou and we don’t have a different purse. I don’t give her money for food or to buy anything; she knows the right thing to do. I can’t remember the year I asked her to bring the account book to see how money was spent; we are living fine. This is our 22nd year in marriage; by January 2022, we will be 23 years. Nobody has ever come to settle any case between us; it has never happened and it will never happen,”
I left his office that day convinced that see, there is no formula in life, just be yourself and do what you believe is right, nothing else is guaranteed and this is why I said so:
Even though this beautiful couple did not date for one day, did not have sexual compatibility before marriage as our generation defines it but today, they are a model in this thing called Marriage.
Those of us that know the couple admire the bond and love between them.
It is infectious to watch.
You see two people who are madly in love and their love pushes you to fall in love too.
And also, it is always beautiful to hear my boss call his wife ” Mummy” the special pet name he calls her.
I just remembered the conservation I had with the Seahorse boss a few minutes ago, while thinking about long dating and whether it makes a marriage successful, I remembered this beautiful couple’s story and I’m convinced that in life, there is no formula for anything, whether creating a sustainable wealth or a successful marriage.
Long courtship does not solve any problem and neither does it guarantee a successful marriage.
Sexual compatibility is a fad and means nothing.
Going to church and paying your tithe every Sunday is not a guarantee that you will be rich and successful
Just be yourself and do your thing, after you have done what you believe is right, then leave the rest to God.
There is no one-size-fits-all out there people.
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